LGBTQ+ AWARENESS

Welcome to this LGBTQ+ awareness page. This space is for those who identify as LGBTQ+ to find information and resources for support as well as to help educate those who would like to learn more about the community. Please feel free to contact the LGBTQ+ Officers and the Communications team if you would like to add more or suggest edits for the current content.

PRONOUNS

She/her/hers and he/him/his are a few commonly used pronouns. Some people call these “female/feminine” and “male/masculine” pronouns, but many avoid these labels because not everyone who uses he feels like a “male” or “masculine.”

There are also lots of gender-neutral pronouns in use. Here are a few you might hear:

  • They/them/theirs (Shea ate their food because they were hungry.) This is a pretty common gender-neutral pronoun and it can be used in the singular. In fact, “they” was voted as the Word of the Year in 2015.
  • Ze/hir/hir (Tyler ate hir food because ze was hungry.) Ze is pronounced like “zee” can also be spelled zie or xe, and replaces she/he/they. Hir is pronounced like “here” and replaces her/hers/him/his/they/theirs.
  • Just my name please! (Ash ate Ash’s food because Ash was hungry) Some people prefer not to use pronouns at all, using their name as a pronoun instead.

Never refer to a person as “it” or “he-she”. These are offensive slurs used against trans and gender non-conforming individuals

Information found on https://uwm.edu/lgbtrc/support/gender-pronouns/

BISEXUAL ERASURE

Bisexual erasure is erasing someone’s identity.

Biphobia is prejudiced thinking towards stereotypical thoughts of those who identify as bisexual.

Examples of Biphoia are;

  • “I would never date a bisexual person, they’re more likely to cheat!”
  • “Bisexual people need to pick and stop being greedy!”
  • “Bisexual people are just doing it for attention!”

These are inaccurate assumptions and are disrespectful.

Key reminder on bisexuality

  • A bisexual woman being attracted to a man is still bisexual.
  • A bisexual man being attracted to woman is still bisexual.
  • A bisexual woman being attracted to woman is still bisexual.
  • A bisexual man being attracted to man is still bisexual.

GENDER NEUTRAL TOILETS

For Everyone toilets, Who can use them?

Anyone who does not feel comfortable using the main, multi stall restrooms

What are gender-neutral toilets?

Gender-neutral toilets (GNTs) are toilets and/or bathroom facilities which do not have gendered signage and which do not require the person using them to define into a gender. Rather than being unisex (both male and female), gender-neutral toilets assign no gender whatsoever to people using them.

Who uses gender-neutral toilets?

The simple answer is anyone! That is the whole point of ‘neutralising’ the gendered signage on the doors of the toilets. They can be used by anyone, regardless of gender, without fear of incident, discrimination or harassment. Often, a gender-neutral toilet is a positive choice for those with more ambiguous gender presentation or those who do not fit into the rigid categories of looking like a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’. People with a more ambiguous gender presentation can be subject to discrimination whichever gendered toilet they use, and therefore a gender-neutral toilet can provide a safer alternative to traditional male and female toilets. These people may or may not identify as trans, or as LGBT. Some trans people identify outside of the gender binary, and choose not to define their gender as either a man or woman. Having gender-neutral toilets ensures that these people will not be forced to choose the ‘best option’ toilet instead of one they actually feel comfortable with.

GENDER NEUTRAL TOILETS BY ROOM NAME

GENDER NEUTRAL TOILETS ON THE MAP

FALMER

EASTBOURNE

MOULSECOOMB

GRAND PARADE

Where can I find out more?

For more information about the development of gender neutral toilets at the University please contact equality@brighton.ac.uk

If you would like to comment on the university’s plans please go to staffcentral’s discussion board on the home page.

For further information about gender-neutral toilets and trans* equality in higher education, go to:

IDENTITIES

Disclaimer: these definitions are designed to provide basic understanding of LGBTQ+ identities and are in no way meant to restrict or exclude those who don’t ‘fit’ the definition perfectly. Gender and sexuality is fluid and unique just like every person is unique. However, if you don’t agree with or have a better definition for any of these identities please contact: bsucommunications@brighton.ac.uk

Lesbian: A woman who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to other women

Gay: A man who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to other men

Bisexual: Someone who is attracted to their gender and other genders

Transgender: A person who does not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth

Queer/Questioning:

Queer; A term to describe someone who is part of the LGBTQ+ community but does not or does not want to use any labels

Questioning; Someone who may be unsure of their gender or sexuality

Intersex: “Intersex” is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn't seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male.

Asexual/Aromantic: Someone who is aromantic does not or is unlikely to experience romantic attraction to other people.

Someone who is asexual does not or is unlikely to experience sexual attraction to other people.

Agender/Non-Binary: An agender person ('a-' meaning "without"), also called genderless, genderfree, non-gendered, or ungendered, is someone who identifies as having no gender or being without a gender identity.

Non-binary gender describes any gender identity which does not fit the male and female binary. Those with non-binary genders can feel that they:

  • Have an androgynous (both masculine and feminine) gender identity, such as androgyne.
  • Have an identity between male and female, such as intergender.
  • Have a neutral or unrecognized gender identity, such as agender, neutrois, or most xenogenders.
  • Have multiple gender identities, such as bigender or pangender.
  • Have a gender identity which varies over time, known as genderfluid.
  • Have a weak or partial connection to a gender identity, known as demigender.
  • Are intersex and identify as intersex, know as amalgagender
  • Have a culturally specific gender identity which exists only within their or their ancestor's culture.

Pansexual/Omnisexual: Pansexuality, or omnisexuality, is the sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity.

Polyamorous: Polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners. It has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy."

Information found on http://www.mtv.co.uk/pride/news/lgbtq-acronym-guide

ASEXUALITY

By its barest definition, someone who is aromantic asexual (or aro-ace) doesn't experience either romantic attraction or sexual attraction to the other people around them.

Romantic attraction refers to the wish to do “romantic things” with another person, and the feeling involved when you have a crush on someone. In the same way that an asexual doesn’t feel the desire to have sex when they see someone attractive, aromantics aren’t going to have crushes and romantic urges upon seeing someone they might like.

Of course, some aromantics might be in relationships that look romantic, or some asexuals might have sex. Some people like to hold hands, kiss, and snuggle, and others hate it. Some are in between. Someone’s orientation isn’t immediately apparent by what they do.

Aro-ace people may seek out more unconventional styles of relationships, as well, which might be less focused on “love” in the traditional sense. However, they are still capable of loving their friends and family in a platonic sense

An aromantic person in a relationship is still aromantic.

An asexual person in a relationship is still asexual.

An asexual person having sex/experiencing sexual attraction is still asexual.

Don’t erase their identities. Be respectful

SEXUAL HEALTH

CLINIC M

Clinic M offers a confidential sexual health service to gay and bisexual men regardless of HIV status

CLINIC T

Clinic T is a sexual health service for anyone who identifies as trans, non-binary or gender variant (partners are welcome too). The clinic runs every month and upcoming dates are posted here. All of their services are free and completely confidential, and their staff have been trained in trans awareness

LGBT SWITCHBOARD

LGBT switchboard offer support and information to people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, unsure or are affected by issues of sexual or gender identity. They offer a subsidised counselling service and support on:

  • Mental Health Awareness
  • Trans Awareness
  • HIV Awareness
  • Suicide Intervention
  • Sexual Health
  • LGBT Hate Crime – Supporting and Reporting

Helpline: 01273 204050 every day from 5pm

Email: info@switchboard.org.uk

www.switchboard.org.uk

TERRENCE HIGGINS TRUST

THT are a national HIV and sexual health charity, with local offices in Brighton and Eastbourne, offering a wide range of services and support.

Click here to search THT services in Brighton

Click here to search THT services in Eastbourne

UNIVERSITY SUPPORT

The University of Brighton is committed to ensuring an equal and inclusive environment for students from all backgrounds and identities.

This leaflet outlines the support available to trans and non-binary students at the University of Brighton and in the local community.

The term ‘trans’ is used here as an inclusive umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or gender expression differs from the sex (male or female) they were assigned at birth. The term may include, but is not limited to, trans men and women, non-binary people and dual role people.

Click here for the Tran and Non-Binary Students Leaflet

FURTHER RESOURCES

ALLSORTS

Allsorts is a project based in Brighton to support and empower young people under 26 who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans or unsure (LGBTU) of their sexual orientation and/or gender identity.

Tel: 01273 721211

www.allsortsyouth.org.uk

LGBT SWITCHBOARD

LGBT switchboard offer support and information to people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, unsure or are affected by issues of sexual or gender identity. They offer a subsidised counselling service and support on:

  • Mental Health Awareness
  • Trans Awareness
  • HIV Awareness
  • Suicide Intervention
  • Sexual Health
  • LGBT Hate Crime – Supporting and Reporting

Helpline: 01273 204050 every day from 5pm

Email: info@switchboard.org.uk

www.switchboard.org.uk

MIND OUT

Mental health support for people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgendered (LGBT) and have mental health concerns in Brighton & Hove.

Tel: 01273 666960

www.mindout.org.uk

LGBT DRUG & ALCOHOL WORKER

Offers information, advice and support to anyone aged 16 and over with substance misuse issues who identifies as LGBT. The team will also support people to access specialist services when appropriate. The service provides both one to one sessions and workshops by request. It can offer home visits if necessary and works from a number of community venues.

Tel: 07884476634 or 0800 014 9819

Email: gsmith@pavilions.org.uk

THE CLARE PROJECT

The Clare Project is a self-supporting group based in Brighton & Hove open to anyone wishing to explore issues around gender identity.

They provide a weekly drop-in which aims to provide a safe and confidential place for people to meet with others who share their life experiences and find information, support and companionship. A facilitator and a psychotherapist are in attendance at the drop-ins every Tuesday.

While the group is mainly attended by transgender, transsexual and gender dysphoric people, they aim to be all-inclusive as we recognise the complexities surrounding the issue of gender identity.

www.clareproject.org.uk

TERRENCE HIGGINS TRUST

THT are a national HIV and sexual health charity, with local offices in Brighton and Eastbourne, offering a wide range of services and support.

Click here to search THT services in Brighton

Click here to search THT services in Eastbourne

#MYPRONOUNSARE CAMPAIGNS

The university is part of a city wide campaign to support trans and non-binary people and increase understanding of gender identity, including that you cannot assume someone’s gender identity and the pronouns they use. Brighton Students’ Union are proud to support the campaign.

As part of #MyPronounsAre, badges have been produced that indicate someone’s pronouns. These have been distributed from public sector partners in the city to mark Trans Day of Visibility (31 March) and will be available to staff and students from the beginning of the summer term.

The following badges will be available:

  • She, her, hers
  • He, him, his
  • They, their, theirs
  • Please use my name
  • Blank, for the wearer to fill in
  • #MyPronounsAre

The campaign has been put together by Brighton and Hove City Council with support from the university, local NHS Trust, Sussex Police and local LGBT+ community groups.

The initiative follows the city’s Trans Needs Assessment and Trans Equality Scrutiny group which identified the trans and non-binary community as a vulnerable group and highlighted the need to remove the stigma and build relationships. This research was undertaken as a consortium between the university and Brighton & Hove LGBT Switchboard. Similar badges were produced for the Trans and Non-Binary Conference held at the university last summer and there was enthusiastic support to roll the idea out across the city.

Increase your understanding

Gender identity might be something many of us have never thought much about before. Below are a variety of resources that can help you increase your understanding.

As well as displaying #MyPronounsAre in libraries across campuses, library staff have also put together a fantastic resource detailing websites and a list of items available from the university’s library collections, to support this campaign and Trans Day of Visibility (31 March). Access this padlet to learn more and see what you might want to reserve in the university’s libraries.

Names and pronouns in 60 seconds with university alumnus and Honorary Doctorate, Fox Fisher

Things not to say to non-binary people BBC 3 video with non-binary people addressing common misconceptions

We asked 14 trans activists how cis people can be better allies in 2018 Indy100 article

A Toolkit for Becoming a Transgender Ally TEDx talk by Eli Green

Tips for Allies of Transgender People Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD)

Support around trans and non-binary issues

There are many organisations that can provide support. Below is a list of local services for trans and non-binary people: